How peens work.
So, I’m not gonna lie, there have been more times than many that I’ve wondered what it feels like to have a pen-is. I think I even dreamed about it. Don’t judge me! It’s just that some guys idolize their manhood like it’s their greatest gift on earth. What’s so good about them? Does seks without a condom feel that immaculate? When a girl goes down on you, is it that mind-blowing?
I can only imagine how great these things are, but I’m tired of imagining! Health and seksuality educator, Ellen Kate Friedrichs, spills the real tea on things you’ve always wanted to know about the male member but were too chicken to ask.
Guys are Obsessive
Ladies, have you ever thought, “Why are guys so obsessed with their pen-ises?” Like, what the big deal? Like, seriously. Well, according to Friedrichs, we should blame ad movies. “You rarely see a guy with a small or even average-sized pen-is in ad movies, so huge pen-ises seem normal and almost expected. Plus, there’s a myth that a big pen-is is needed to satisfy a partner. It isn’t.”
K. I can see why guys would be self-conscious about their members. It’s kinda like how we as women are super self-conscious when it comes to our boobs and butts. Understandable.
The Average Size
According to a study done on 15,000 men, the average size of an adult male is 3.6 inches long when soft and 5.2 inches long when hard. And Friedrichs says, “The size of a guy when he is soft isn’t an indication of how big he will be when he’s hard.” Pay attention, ladies!
No Glove, No Love
I’ve known a couple of guys who said condoms are a barrier when having seks. They claimed that not wearing a condom felt so much better than wearing a condom that they’d rather go raw dog than be safe and strap.
“But enough guys have great seks using condoms that I would argue that even if they affect sensation a bit, a lot of guys don’t feel like condoms get in the way of great seks,” says Friedrichs.
And lest we forget, condoms are a way to ensure safety. There are way too many STDs and unwanted pregnancies happening these days. Don’t be caught in that bunch. Always remember: No glove, no love!
Not So Hard
A friend of mine cried to me one time because her man couldn’t “get it up.” She was hurt and extremely pissed. She thought he was either not into her anymore, cheating on her, or gay. Ladies, don’t be so quick to jump to assumptions if your guy is having trouble getting hard. Yes, guys get hard when they are turned on, but if they fail to do so, it can be because of many reasons, including nervousness. Friedrichs says that it’s possible that he is nervous, tired or distracted.
Come to find out, my friend’s boyfriend had been working tirelessly the entire week and was just too worn out to even think about getting it up for seks. See?! Don’t trip, girl!
Watch out for rough seks! While there are no bones in pen-ises to actually break, if you bend a pen-is while it’s hard, it can cause a lot of tissue damage in the pen-is, according to Friedrichs. Painful bruising and swelling can occur, resulting in the worst. pain. ever.